TW: STALKINGLast year I ended a brief online friendship with a woman in another state who had clearly become fixated and obsessed with me, making me uncomfortable with the intensity of her attention and the demands she put on my time and energy. After weeks of her blogging constantly about me being her star-crossed soul mate, of having led her on, of her passionate and undying love for me, I snapped and told her with great finality to leave me alone, that the connection she saw between us was a fantasy, that her behaviour was creepy and inappropriate and that I wanted nothing more to do with her.
Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine what would happen next.
Her obsession with me not only grew, but became hostile and vindictive in nature. As she refused to come to terms with my boundaries, she gradually recharacterised me from a perfect symbolic figure of all she desired into a malignant villain who had deliberately set out to make her fall in love with me only to discard her cruelly. Already showing signs of delusion, she diagnosed me as being a “narcissistic sociopath” determined to destroy her.
She became similarly fixated on a woman living in the same state as her and began claiming this woman was me, in disguise to hunt her down and kill her. She started harassing this woman and I daily, threatening us with various forms of actions if “I” did not leave the state. All efforts to explain that we were two separate people who had nothing to do with each other, and that I was carrying on my life in my own state, fell on deaf ears. She continued to insist this woman was me in disguise and engaged in constant, defamatory claims about me, including that I was out to kill her.
At the same time she was harassing a friend of mine, claiming she was harbouring me in her home while I waited to kill her. As my friend lived in the same state and feared further action, she persued and successfully obtained an intervention (restraining) order.
This infuriated the stalker who escalated her attacks and claims against me, vexatiously reporting me to the taxation office, harassing me online, continuing to make false and defamatory accusations, attempting to sabotage my business (and therefore source of income) and contacting my family to harass them as well. She published my phone number and other highly personal information and obtained my residential address through underhanded means. She also continued to harass the woman she claims to believe is me in disguise and after this woman went public on twitter to expose the harassment she had been subjected to, this stalker filed for an intervention order against me - the basis of which she claims are the (understandable) actions of this other woman objecting to being harassed.
This means I now have to obtain legal counsel and travel to another state to attend a court date.
I am self-employed in the sex industry, a student with debts I am struggling to catch up on and continue to pay off, with severe depression who is still recovering from a nervous breakdown I had a couple of years ago. I am attempting to rebuild my life and gain qualifications that will enable me to persue employment (in beauty therapy) that will bring balance to my life. I have PTSD that makes it very difficult for me to work in my current job without being triggered and further traumatised (a fact my stalker has also used against me in psychological attacks). This stalker’s actions have caused strife between me and my family members, which has been devastating to me. For a very long time I have resisted persuing legal action as I am aware this woman is mentally ill and I also believe the justice system is flawed and oppressive, but I cannot allow a false order against me with no basis go forth when it has the potential to affect my future.
The emotional distress caused to me by this woman’s harassment and abuse has been extreme. Anxiety, turmoil, insomnia, emotional instability, intense fear and even paranoia are some of the consquences I have been living with. At times I have been left unable to work and have even feared she has set up friends of hers to pose as clients, as she has done with the other woman she claims is me. I am also concerned her constant diatribes that I am a psychopath will be accessed by potential future employers and affect my ability to find steady work.
I am not this woman’s only victim. She has targeted several people, mainly women and many of whom are marginalised in various ways, in the last year and subjected them to various forms of harassment and abuse. It seems that I serve as the proxy for all her rage and resentment and so am the one she focuses her most concentrated efforts on.
I am asking for donations to help me cover the cost of travelling to the state where the court date will be held and of paying lawyer’s fees. My income is inconsistent and highly dependent on my psychological ability to work, my study commitments and whether the industry is in flux so it is concentrated on paying my rent and utilities and covering my debts. I have nothing extra left over to account for these unexpected and unjust costs I am facing and am imploring those of you out there who might be able to afford $5 here and there to consider helping me in this time of need.
I have stated a goal of $3000 which I hope will be sufficient and in the instance there is money left over it will be donated to a women’s shelter in either Victoria or NSW I will select after investigation to identify those that are inclusive of trans women. Receipts will be provided.
If you are able to donate, please accept my enormous thanks and gratitude. I am hopeful that opposing this vexatious order will discourage this woman in her harassment of her other victims and ultimately be beneficial for us all. Thank you so much for your support.
This is happening here in Aus. I’d really like to donate, even though I don’t have a job. I hope that the $3000 goal is met.
and stop viewing feminists as man haters!
Oh, hey; so my shitty boss uses “cute” names for everyone (admittedly, regardless of gender) and when I complained to HR about it, the woman told me, “Oh, that’s his way.”
And that’s when I realized, no one in a company actually cares for the cogs in the machinery; just the machinery.
the reason male comic book fans work themselves into a frenzied rage over “fake geek girls" is because they think they can’t get a girlfriend because of their love for comic books (a.k.a nerdiness). if they accept that geek girls genuinely love comic books, then they’re left with the cold harsh reality that it’s not their nerdiness that makes them unattractive to women, but the fact that they are misogynistic condescending dickbags who need to be avoided AT ALL COSTS
"Men’s Rights" activist and self-proclaimed philosopher Stefan Molyneux pretends to be a woman posting a positive comment on his own video “debunking” Frozen but completely fails at account switching
"Being an attractive young woman, I…"
Amazing posters from the Australian Human Rights Commission’s “Know the Line” campaign which aims to prevent and reduce the harm of sexual harassment in Australian workplaces.
Check their page out at https://knowtheline.humanrights.gov.au/
Winning again, Aus.
You can tell a girl she’s smart her whole life, encourage her in school, buy her a chemistry set, send her to math camp, help her apply for college scholarships in STEM fields, and she’s still eventually going to walk into a classroom, a lab, or a job interview and have some man dismiss her existence, deny her funding, pass her over for a promotion, or take credit for her work. How about you work on getting those assholes out of power and quit telling me not to call girls pretty.
Dude, are you kidding me?
Keep thinking that men are so calm and rational, and women are the “crazy” and “emotional” ones, though.
It’s literally KILLING us, but you know women… what’s the deal with them and their feelings hurr durr durr
Wow. That was unexpected.
The Nuance of heteronormativity.
By Sianni Rosenstock
Clearly depicting a sexual encounter between two women, this billboard — posted on Doheny Drive in Los Angeles — looks like it would undermine heteronormativity: an invisibility of same-sex sexual and romantic relationships.
In fact, I don’t think it does. For one, the aim of the advertisement is to appeal to male consumers. The women’s appearance is in conformity with the demands of the hypothetical heterosexual male gaze. They have long groomed hair and are wearing sexy lingerie and make-up. They are arching their backs and sticking out their busts and butts. The performance of male gaze-compliant femininity is clear, making the male viewer an implicit part of the advertisement. This enforces heterosexuality and promotes heternormativity instead of undermining it.
Moreover – and stay with me here – that implicit male manifests himself symbolically in the shaft of the champagne bottle. The woman’s hand gripping the bottle turns this image into a depiction of a threesome rather than a lesbian encounter. This billboard, then, reinforces heterosexuality instead of disrupting it.Sianni Rosenstock is a rising junior at Occidental College.
Alcohol, regardless of the fact it is consumed pretty evenly by both men and women, is almost exclusively marketed to men. A common strategy is appealing to the viewer’s masculinity. By this I mean reaffirming male superiority, reminding men how amazing they are simply because they’re men and/or undermining the agency of women, treating them as eye candy for men.
By being inclusive and flattering towards men while ostracizing and devaluing women, they create a friendly connection between target audience and product which influences them to buy.
Effectively, they say to men:
"Hey bro you’re awesome, yeah how good is it to be a man right? Being a man is great. Hey check this out… tits. Fuck yeah, tits and pussy. The only good thing about women amirite? So anyway you should buy this because it’s for manly men like yourself."
So I just found out that Laverne Cox has an identical twin brother, who played pre-transition Sophia in OITNB.
I was wondering how they found someone that looked just like her to play the role!
they were discussing Sophia’s back story and she told them “ya know, i have a twin brother.” they asked him to do it and he said yes!
fun fact Jenji Kohan told Laverne Cox that they were going to hire somebody to play her pre-transition because they didn’t want to traumatize her or trigger dysphoria by having her pretend to be a man and she was like “no no, I can do this, I’m an actress” but the creators of the show insisted on using her twin brother instead
Props to the show for A.) getting it and B.) hiring the literal best person for the job
Also Laverne wins everything.
More reason this show and Laverne are so awesome.
On average, you have a 1 in 18,989 chance of being murdered
A trans person has a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered
The average life span of a cis person is about 75-90
The average life expectancy of a trans person is 23-30 years old
75% of people killed in anti LGBT hate crimes are poc
Think about this the next time you go crying over “cisphobia” and “reverse racism”